You can benefit people unless they become fanatic-Part 4/4The Advice
It took me many years after I left the Ideology of Wahhabism to understand why the leadership would lie, and it took discoveries after discoveries of books and statements they claimed it supported them and once I got to the source I found it to be otherwise. This is the result of fanaticism for it validates for one to lie in support of one's movement and it makes the person arrogant from accepting the truth; most people talk about the arrogance of feeling superior but tend to pay less attention of the arrogance of rejecting the truth, once its known clearly, as stated in the hadith, Allah's messenger صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said:
الكبر بطر الحق وغمط الناس
It means "Arrogance is rejecting the truth and the belittlement of people" narrated by Muslim.
الكبر بطر الحق وغمط الناس
It means "Arrogance is rejecting the truth and the belittlement of people" narrated by Muslim.
But make no mistake, for this is not a Wahhabi disease only, but even among the Sunnis, you'll stumble upon those who willfully spread wrong agendas to further their cause.
Once someone warned me about a person I didn't know. This brother was just conveying what he's told out of trust, but once I got the warning I felt sad for all these bad people out there. However, as it has become my habit, I searched for the book of this person I was warned against and started reading the areas in questions and I was very surprised at the evidence he was bringing. Next, I went to the books of other highly respected scholars of the past he was stating one buy one, and there were many, to investigate and found out he was being truthful. I then listened to a speech given by one of my favorite shaykhs cursing him and miss coating what he was saying to the point you will most likely judge him as a kaffir. Someone who's neutral would have figured out very easily, after being provided with evidence from both sides that the Shaykh I loved was deceiving and extremely manipulative. However, when you have so much trust in someone what is obvious isn't clear to you, and you might choose to turn a blind eye not to disturb your comfort zone, or for the sake of an organization, or for the fear that greater harm might result if you acted. However, I went back again to the books of the scholars I searched earlier just to confirm and listened to this shaykh's speech again and again and again just hoping to find a reason to excuse him, because his attack on this person, whom I never cared for, was also an attack on the majority of past scholars, and the majority of the audiences listening to him are touched by his speech, but they have no clue of the reality. After listening many times and trying to excuse him, I started praying to Allah for guidance and took over a month and then I realized that I was following my emotions and not being objective, and after that day I have not listened to a single lesson or speech this shaykh gives, I have lost trust in him completely. This was a major turning point, for I no longer have trust in Individuals simply based on affiliation to a group but rather based on the individual's characteristics, just as previous Muslims deed when they sought knowledge. And these are the type of discoveries that are heart-wrenching and causes you to lose sleep.
Times are tough and I am not suggesting to weigh people as Al-Bukhari or Malik did because the examples like the scholars of the past are very few nowadays. Therefore, do your best that your source of knowledge is trusted, and don't be a faultfinder, but do your best to excuse others and think positive. Having said that I will seek knowledge from someone who might have once stolen or was lored by a woman and repented because none of us is perfect. And, I will forgive the one who purposely was dishonest like the Shaykh I mentioned, but what I can NOT bring back is the trust that was lost, and therefore I would completely avoid him. The two types of personality I have the most difficulty with are arrogant and dishonest in relaying religious information. I have been told that I am very good at doing research and at smelling a rotten fish, but I am very slow at taking action because I fear misjudging people, but its when the judgment is very clear that I can never return to the one that was purposely dishonest, for my personal knowledge and guidance.
Honesty is comforting and soothing to the heart, so be honest with others and be honest with yourself. Know may Allah guide us and unite our Ummah that guidance is only from Allah. Guidance is the light that Allah casts in one's heart thereby realizes the truth from falsehood. Guidance is not because of who you follow, how much knowledge you have, how smart you are, or how much effort you're putting into worship.
The best of the creation is prophet Muhammad صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ and few of those who have seen him and believed in him later disbelieved in him, even after declaring to be Muslims.
And, If intelligence and knowledge were sufficient for guidance than Imam Al-Ash'ary would not have joined the Mu'tazila part of his life before returning to Ahlu-Sunnah. Moreover, throughout history, you'll find examples of those who memorized the recitation and Hadiths and were outstanding in the Arabic language and mastered so many sciences but went astray.
And, if the great effort in worship was the key than the Khawarij would have been guided but the prophet صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ told his companion "one of you will belittle his worship compare to their worship," and the Khawarij were deviant.
Henceforth, the key is to return to Allah, beg Him for guidance, and pray Allah to show you the truth as the truth and enable you to follow and to show you that which is a falsehood as falsehood and enable you to stay away from it.
Beg for Allah's guidance and listen to your heart and don't be constrained by affiliation, leadership, society, race, organization, movements, money or anything else when it comes to follow the truth and be honest. The ultimate goal is to obey Allah and His messenger beyond anything else, so let this be your compass and don't stray away from it. Also, leave out being egotistic, and concern yourself with your shortcomings.
And, learn to be a good listener and put your emotions aside and remember the old saying If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck.
Also, when you seek knowledge, realize that knowledge is vast so at any point in your lifetime don't hesitate to be corrected or advised and don't be arrogant from accepting the truth, for life is a struggle and we are not infallible, and the wise one will keep on correcting and making himself better until he/she departs from this Dunya.
Also remember, that religion is easy as said by Allah's messenger صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ and Allah is merciful and he stated in the Quran:
وجاهدوا في الله حق جهاده هو اجتباكم وما جعل عليكم في الدين من حرج ملة أبيكم إبراهيم هو سماكم المسلمين من قبل وفي هذا ليكون الرسول شهيدا عليكم وتكونوا شهداء على الناس
وجاهدوا في الله حق جهاده هو اجتباكم وما جعل عليكم في الدين من حرج ملة أبيكم إبراهيم هو سماكم المسلمين من قبل وفي هذا ليكون الرسول شهيدا عليكم وتكونوا شهداء على الناس
Which means:
Struggle for (the sake of) Allah, a struggle that is owed to Him. He has chosen you and did not impose any hardship on you in the religion, the faith of your father Ibrāhīm. He (Allah) named you as Muslims earlier and also in this (Qur’ān), so that the Messenger becomes a witness to you, and you become witnesses to (other) people. (Al-Haj/78)
And Allah said:
لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا ۚ
This means: Allah doesn't burden oneself more than it can bear. (Al-Baqarah/286)
Struggle for (the sake of) Allah, a struggle that is owed to Him. He has chosen you and did not impose any hardship on you in the religion, the faith of your father Ibrāhīm. He (Allah) named you as Muslims earlier and also in this (Qur’ān), so that the Messenger becomes a witness to you, and you become witnesses to (other) people. (Al-Haj/78)
And Allah said:
لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا ۚ
This means: Allah doesn't burden oneself more than it can bear. (Al-Baqarah/286)
When you seek knowledge don't only focus in one area but be skillful in all major areas and that includes beliefs (Tawhid), acts of worship and rules (fiqh) and manners (Suluk-Tasawuf).
Abu Bakr Alwaraaq said
من اكتفى بالكلام دون الزهد تزندق ، ومن اكتفى بالزهد دون الكلام والفقه ابتدع ، ومن اكتفى بالفقه دون الزهد والورع تفسق ، ومن تفنن في هذه الأمور كلها تخلص
من اكتفى بالكلام دون الزهد تزندق ، ومن اكتفى بالزهد دون الكلام والفقه ابتدع ، ومن اكتفى بالفقه دون الزهد والورع تفسق ، ومن تفنن في هذه الأمور كلها تخلص
Which means: "The one who's satisfied with Kalam (Theology) without (seeking) zuhd (asceticism) becomes a zindiq (heretic-disbeliever), And he who's satisfied with Zuhd (asceticism) without theology and fiqh becomes an innovator, and he who's satisfied with fiqh without zuhd (asceticism) and theology becomes a major sinner (fasiq) and he who become skillful in all these matters is safe"
Start with the knowledge you need the most and that is Tawhid (beliefs) fiqh and manners (i.e tasawuf/suluk).
Tawhid teaches you the essentials of beliefs so your worship is accepted, Fiqh teaches you how to do your worship properly so it's valid and Suluk teaches you true sincerity and humbleness and protects you from diseases such as arrogance, insincerity, and many of the symptoms that lead to fanaticism.
And, for those of you who are active in Da'wa realize that when you have sincerity, good character, and your heart is clean your advice will penetrate the hearts of others. A shaykh was once telling his audience to have good manners, and don't be caught sinning because this is counterproductive of our da'wah. These type of statements hurts my ears because you should have good manners for the sake of Allah regardless if you are involved in da'wah or not, and don't forget that the border between sincerity and insincerity is a very thin line. And when someone is genuine his impact is greater and lasting than the one who pretends. Therefore, concern yourself with your own flaws, rather than looking into the defects of others, so that you can purify yourself.
Allah's messenger said ﷺ: “...Be obedient in the Ma^ruf (the well known good) upon one another and forbid one another to do evil, but if you see overwhelming stinginess being adhered to, desires being followed, this world being preferred (to the Hereafter), every person with an opinion feeling proud of it, and you realize that you have no power to deal with it, then be keen to yourself (i.e. better yourself, purify your heart...etc) and leave the common folks (to their own devices). Fore, After you will come days of patience during which patients will be like grasping a burning ember(i.e. coal), and one who does good deeds will have a reward like that of fifty men doing the same deed.”Narrated by Ibn Majah
in another narration, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) was asked by the companions "Oh messenger of Allah the reward of fifty from us or from them," Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said "No, the reward of fifty from you" Narrated by At-Tirmidhi
in another narration, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) was asked by the companions "Oh messenger of Allah the reward of fifty from us or from them," Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said "No, the reward of fifty from you" Narrated by At-Tirmidhi
Advising other is great, but don't be among those who are worried for others, but neglect themselves, and know that there is no path better than the path drown by the messenger of Allah ﷺ. Hence, from the start of your day until you sleep learn how to spend your day following the Sunnah of Allah's messenger صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ. For that, you need a schedule based on the Sunnah of Allah's messenger صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ. Something you can bear and increase step by step. The scholars also say you also need a guide (Murshid), but such shaykhs are becoming rare, and if you can't find a Murshid then let the messenger of Allah be your guide, as you are also learning, and you do so by clinging on making salah and salam upon the messenger of Allah صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ, day and night, so increase your salawaat upon him صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ may Allah strengthen us, and make us firm in doing so.
And I would strongly advise you to learn to recite the Quran if you haven't, and have a daily recitation schedule. The attachment to the Quran used to be a notable character of previous Muslims. And, The habits of the masters are the masters (best) of habits.
And remember as stated in these series (and in part 2/4 in particular), that feeling hate for a Muslim because he's not part of your Movement, organization, or not following your leader are among the symptoms of fanaticism.
When you meet a Muslims and you want to talk about da'wah, start with the Quran and the hadith, the common ground the unites us, and next you may go to the saying and the books of the well knows scholars where there is little dispute about them if any, and not by your favorite shaykh whom you follow or the organization you belong to. Focus on what Allah obligated among the pillars of Islam, focus on the things we are going to be asked in the hereafter, and know that we have been ordered to be united as Muslims.
I remind you again to always return to Allah for guidance, tirelessly, in order to show you that which is good as good and to enable you to follow and that which is evil as evil and to enable you to stay away from. And, before you make a decision for your dunya or akhira always return to Allah and make istikhara. Don't engage in something because you wanted to succeed rather because Allah's pleased with. And be pleased with what Allah granted you and think good of Him subhanahu wa ta'ala. Before you decide anything, take time to prays two raka'a and ask for guidance and repeat the supplicate from time to time and you may due Istikhara for one, three, or seven days and the du'a is good to do anytime
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْتَخِيرُكَ بِعِلْمِكَ وَأَسْتَقْدِرُكَ بِقُدْرَتِكَ وَأَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ فَضْلِكَ الْعَظِيمِ فَإِنَّكَ تَقْدِرُ وَلَا أَقْدِرُ وَتَعْلَمُ وَلَا أَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتَ عَلَّامُ الْغُيُوبِ اللَّهُمَّ إِنْ كُنْتَ تَعْلَمُ أَنَّ هَذَا الْأَمْرَ خَيْرٌ لِي فِي دِينِي وَمَعَاشِي وَعَاقِبَةِ أَمْرِي فَاقْدُرْهُ لِي وَيَسِّرْهُ لِي ثُمَّ بَارِكْ لِي فِيهِ وَإِنْ كُنْتَ تَعْلَمُ أَنَّ هَذَا الْأَمْرَ شَرٌّ لِي فِي دِينِي وَمَعَاشِي وَعَاقِبَةِ أَمْرِي فَاصْرِفْهُ عَنِّي وَاصْرِفْنِي عَنْهُ وَاقْدُرْ لِي الْخَيْرَ حَيْثُ كَانَ ثُمَّ أَرْضِنِي
which means:
“O Allah, verily I seek the better [of either choice] from You, by Your knowledge, and I seek ability from You, by Your power, and I ask You from Your immense bounty. For indeed You have power, and I am powerless, and you have the knowledge and I know not; and, you are the Knower of the unseen. O Allah, if You know that this matter is good for me with regard to my religion, my livelihood and the end of my affair then enable me, facilitate it for me, and grant me the blessing in it. And if You know that this matter is not good for me with regard to my religion, my livelihood and the end of my affair then turn it away from me and me from it; and decree for me better than it, wherever it may be, and make me content with it.”
“O Allah, verily I seek the better [of either choice] from You, by Your knowledge, and I seek ability from You, by Your power, and I ask You from Your immense bounty. For indeed You have power, and I am powerless, and you have the knowledge and I know not; and, you are the Knower of the unseen. O Allah, if You know that this matter is good for me with regard to my religion, my livelihood and the end of my affair then enable me, facilitate it for me, and grant me the blessing in it. And if You know that this matter is not good for me with regard to my religion, my livelihood and the end of my affair then turn it away from me and me from it; and decree for me better than it, wherever it may be, and make me content with it.”
So often people follow their emotions and forget that somethings may look good and convincing but may not be their best choice, and something may look bad but could be good for them, and the one that knows is Allah. Always, and pray to Him, and be humble and honest and don't be distracted from your compass of obeying Allah and His messenger.
Be wise and balanced and don't be hyped into something because once you go to your grave you will be alone, and all those who hyped you will be concerned with themselves on the day of judgment. And if you are not sure of something, feel bothered or have noticed some strange behavior, then be careful and don't get tangled in something you might regret in the future. Relay on Allah, return to Him and pray for guidance.
We are not perfect but little by little, and day by day we all need to improve ourselves. And in these troubled times look no further for the cure then the way of Allah's messenger صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ and the way that was exemplified by his companion, and if you think you have new a short-cut that can validate your laziness, then know that your nafs (yourself) and the shaytan are fooling you, so wake up from your dream and get to work and don't forget the purpose of our creation which is to know and worship Allah.
May Allah guide us, and grant us the joy in this life, in our graves, and make us stand with those who are joyful on the day of judgment, and admit us into paradise without prior punishment, Ameen, And Allah knows best.